The Art of Dirty Talk
Before I reflect about my interaction with an individual I explored for the purpose of dating, I like to share my references about Art and Communication. Recently my family and I flew from Paris to Verbier - Switzerland with New Year where we not only created a warm and loving atmosphere and skied, but we also attended Gallery Coskun that's part of the Parisian Musee Rodin-their Andy Warhol collection is stunning. 
In Europe and within my upbringing I was exposed to all categories of Art. My High school Curriculum had Art History and Philosophy as a Major and to date my baby girl gains knowledge of Art and Culture when we visit galleries and theater each week. I appreciate Art in all its expressive manifestations: Poetry of Pinski, Dante, Jeffers, Racin, Lord Byron; Panting Artist such as -COBRA; Matisse; Gauguin; Theodore Gericault;Pablo Picasso;Lionn Golub; Morelli; Salvador Dali; Edouord Manet; Michelangelo; Industrial Design of Ton Haas; Joep van Lieshout; Vivid; Literary Arts [by Voltaire and Tzara] such as Poetry; Performance Art by Yves Klein and Dance [Copellia, Swan Lake, Le Corsaire]; Music; Sculpture [Bloy, O'Conner];Movies; Conceptual Art, and not last but not least the Art of Communication. What is art? Its definition: A visual object or experience consciously created through an expression of skill or imagination. The term art encompasses diverse media such as painting, sculpture, printmaking, drawing, decorative arts, photography, and installation. The various visual arts exist within a continuum that ranges from purely aesthetic purposes at one end to purely utilitarian purposes at the other. This should by no means be taken as a rigid scheme, however, particularly in cultures in which everyday objects are painstakingly constructed and imbued with meaning
Communication is one of the finest manifestations of Art. It demonstrates your verbal ability to express words. meaning and feelings. What is the definition of Communication:1: an act or instance of transmitting2 a: information communicated b: a verbal or written message3 a: a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior <the function of pheromones in insect communication>; also : exchange of information b: personal rapport: a lack of communication between old and young persons I read the book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman and discovered my two dominant love languages words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. When I was bumped back into the DC Dating scene by my best friends, I evidently encountered some disparities between my European style of communication, its frequency and the communication style of my American Dates. Please do take note that I started upgrading my English proficiency when I moved to this Area in 2006, and am fully aware typos will slip in when writing.
Reflection of Phone conversation with *Lion 9:30 PM before I started to date again
*Lion: Hey Gorgeous how are you? I enjoyed our last evening
out. I’m calling to let you know I’ll call you during the weekend and Friday and we should meet soon next week. I want to see you and spend time together. I’m a bit sleepy now, and in my bed.
Angry Asian Cookie: I’m doing well my sweet Lion. How was your day? Hmmm, you’re in bed? Nice,
*Lion:I had a busy week and day. I’m listening to my music before I go to sleep naked hmmm
Angry Asian Cookie: Oh, you sleep naked? How interesting...
*Lion: Girl, you know I sleep naked hmmm. I’m on my back
Angry Asian Cookie: Can I join you? You want me on your left or on your right?
*Lion: Beautiful, I want you anywhere. Your sexy body on top of me, touching you
Angry Asian Cookie: Mmm Skin on Skin…your sweet lips all over while I’m holding you tight between my luscious thighs.
*Lion: my ******… is …… h** as a *****and I’m going to … you for the d*** S*** you are
Angry Asian Cookie: I’m will *** you and then we’ll ***
No…. I’m not sharing all the graphics but after a hot a steamy conversation and a happy ending our conversation goes on like this
*Lion: When we’re not together, and your with your date do
you release yourself often Angry
Asian Cookie: Lion… what do you mean “when I’m with my date?”
*Lion: When you are with your partner, and he is absent how many times do you release
yourself?Angry Asian Cookie: Partner? Relationship? Dates? I don’t follow you Lion
*Lion: with your boyfriend.Angry Asian Asian Cookie: OMG what the ****
are you saying and thinking??!!! You think that when I'm seeing you; am intimate with you; spend time with you – while I have a boyfriend?? Are you serious?? What did I say that gave you that impression???? I’m sorry but “NO”. I’m seeing you and I only grant you these intimate privileges.
*Lion: Why not?
Angry Asian Cookie: Why not??!!!! Because it’s not part of my ethics and I live a life of character and
integrity…And in addition I’m terrified to catch an Infectious Disease.
Angry Asian Cookie: Ok, well it’s getting late. Why don’t you go to sleep? Sweet Sweet dreams and I look forward to speak and see you soon.
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I enjoy exhibiting Dirty Talk with that one person in my life. For the record: I am a one-man-woman. Yes, I recently started this blog about "dating 365 days" but it's Post-Lion, and I don’t sleep around or date multiple men at the same time. When I go out on a date, I’m focused on this person until my selection assessment tells me to stop dating the person. I can still be friends but I won’t display any romantic interest.
Where did my communication got off track with Lion that he thought I had a boyfriend. Yes, I mention I was seeing a person frequently but not romantically which means it’s not dating or grant this person intimate privileges. I was seeing Lion for several months in the past [before this blog and reentrance at the dating scene of DC] and he had privileges others didn’t have. When he opt for those privileges he would expresses explicit language. After this particular conversation I had to emphasize that I’m only have been on dates with him, and provided explicit privileges.
I questioned if he had an image of me that had parallels with the explicit language he exploited. This is where I wrote him a letter to set the record straight. He received it and I cannot share with you what happened next.
From me to you: Dirty talk is an art, communication is an art. I love art and I love and respect myself. The miscommunication with Lion makes me more cautious and self-aware of how and what I communicate. I’m rather too detailed, then leave blanks after my hilarious experience with Lion.
There’s this song from Brian McKnight where he sings: that the roads are paved with gold and where the Lion lays with the Lamb. I did sleep next to the Lion, and do feel that our road and journey was paved with gold. I feel good about my time with Lion. And I do wish him all the best with his lamb[s] and hope he'll continue to be happy talking dirty...
Lyrics Brian McKnight - Don't take your love away-
So lost
Sometime I feel like I'm all alone
Like I'm down here all by myself
Tell me when you comin' back to take me home
Father I been told that the streets are paved with gold
And the lion lays with the lamb
They say it'll be nothing like I've ever known
And when I get there
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