Talk Dirty To Me

The Art of Dirty Talk

Before I reflect about my interaction with an individual I explored for the purpose of dating, I like to share my references about Art and Communication. Recently my family and I flew from Paris to Verbier - Switzerland with New Year where we not only created a warm and loving atmosphere and skied, but we also attended Gallery Coskun that's part of the Parisian Musee Rodin-their Andy Warhol collection is stunning.

In Europe and within my upbringing I was exposed to all categories of Art. My High school Curriculum had Art History and Philosophy as a Major and to date my baby girl gains knowledge of Art and Culture when we visit galleries and theater each week. I appreciate Art in all its expressive manifestations: Poetry of Pinski, Dante, Jeffers, Racin, Lord Byron; Panting Artist such as -COBRA; Matisse; Gauguin; Theodore Gericault;Pablo Picasso;Lionn Golub; Morelli; Salvador Dali; Edouord Manet; Michelangelo; Industrial Design of Ton Haas; Joep van Lieshout; Vivid; Literary Arts [by Voltaire and Tzara] such as Poetry; Performance Art by Yves Klein and Dance [Copellia, Swan Lake, Le Corsaire]; Music; Sculpture [Bloy, O'Conner];Movies; Conceptual Art, and not last but not least the Art of Communication. What is art? Its definition: A visual object or experience consciously created through an expression of skill or imagination. The term art encompasses diverse media such as painting, sculpture, printmaking, drawing, decorative arts, photography, and installation. The various visual arts exist within a continuum that ranges from purely aesthetic purposes at one end to purely utilitarian purposes at the other. This should by no means be taken as a rigid scheme, however, particularly in cultures in which everyday objects are painstakingly constructed and imbued with meaning
Communication is one of the finest manifestations of Art. It demonstrates your verbal ability to express words. meaning and feelings. What is the definition of Communication:1: an act or instance of transmitting2 a: information communicated b: a verbal or written message3 a: a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior <the function of pheromones in insect communication>; also : exchange of information b: personal rapport: a lack of communication between old and young persons I read the book The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman and discovered my two dominant love languages words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. When I was bumped back into the DC Dating scene by my best friends, I evidently encountered some disparities between my European style of communication, its frequency and the communication style of my American Dates. Please do take note that I started upgrading my English proficiency when I moved to this Area in 2006, and am fully aware typos will slip in when writing.

Reflection of Phone conversation with *Lion 9:30 PM before I started to date again

*Lion: Hey Gorgeous how are you? I enjoyed our last evening
out. I’m calling to let you know I’ll call you during the weekend and Friday and we should meet soon next week. I want to see you and spend time together. I’m a bit sleepy now, and in my bed.
Angry Asian Cookie: I’m doing well my sweet Lion. How was your day? Hmmm, you’re in bed? Nice,
*Lion:I had a busy week and day. I’m listening to my music before I go to sleep naked hmmm
Angry Asian Cookie: Oh, you sleep naked? How interesting...
*Lion: Girl, you know I sleep naked hmmm. I’m on my back
Angry Asian Cookie: Can I join you? You want me on your left or on your right?
*Lion: Beautiful, I want you anywhere. Your sexy body on top of me, touching you

Angry Asian Cookie: Mmm Skin on Skin…your sweet lips all over while I’m holding you tight between my luscious thighs.
*Lion: my ******… is …… h** as a *****and I’m going to … you for the d*** S*** you are
Angry Asian Cookie: I’m will *** you and then we’ll ***

No…. I’m not sharing all the graphics but after a hot a steamy conversation and a happy ending our conversation goes on like this

*Lion: When we’re not together, and your with your date do
you release yourself often Angry
Asian Cookie: Lion… what do you mean “when I’m with my date?”
*Lion: When you are with your partner, and he is absent how many times do you release
yourself?

Angry Asian Cookie: Partner? Relationship? Dates? I don’t follow you Lion
*Lion: with your boyfriend.

Angry Asian Asian Cookie: OMG what the ****
are you saying and thinking??!!! You think that when I'm seeing you; am intimate with you; spend time with you – while I have a boyfriend?? Are you serious?? What did I say that gave you that impression???? I’m sorry but “NO”. I’m seeing you and I only grant you these intimate privileges.
*Lion: Why not?
Angry Asian Cookie: Why not??!!!! Because it’s not part of my ethics and I live a life of character and
integrity…And in addition I’m terrified to catch an Infectious Disease.
Angry Asian Cookie: Ok, well it’s getting late. Why don’t you go to sleep? Sweet Sweet dreams and I look forward to speak and see you soon.

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I enjoy exhibiting Dirty Talk with that one person in my life. For the record: I am a one-man-woman. Yes, I recently started this blog about "dating 365 days" but it's Post-Lion, and I don’t sleep around or date multiple men at the same time. When I go out on a date, I’m focused on this person until my selection assessment tells me to stop dating the person. I can still be friends but I won’t display any romantic interest.

Where did my communication got off track with Lion that he thought I had a boyfriend. Yes, I mention I was seeing a person frequently but not romantically which means it’s not dating or grant this person intimate privileges. I was seeing Lion for several months in the past [before this blog and reentrance at the dating scene of DC] and he had privileges others didn’t have. When he opt for those privileges he would expresses explicit language. After this particular conversation I had to emphasize that I’m only have been on dates with him, and provided explicit privileges.

I questioned if he had an image of me that had parallels with the explicit language he exploited. This is where I wrote him a letter to set the record straight. He received it and I cannot share with you what happened next.

From me to you: Dirty talk is an art, communication is an art. I love art and I love and respect myself. The miscommunication with Lion makes me more cautious and self-aware of how and what I communicate. I’m rather too detailed, then leave blanks after my hilarious experience with Lion.

There’s this song from Brian McKnight where he sings: that the roads are paved with gold and where the Lion lays with the Lamb. I did sleep next to the Lion, and do feel that our road and journey was paved with gold. I feel good about my time with Lion. And I do wish him all the best with his lamb[s] and hope he'll continue to be happy talking dirty...

Hugzzz Dahlings,

angryasiancookie.in.dc@gmail.com

Lyrics Brian McKnight - Don't take your love away-

So lost

Sometime I feel like I'm all alone

Like I'm down here all by myself

Tell me when you comin' back to take me home

Father I been told that the streets are paved with gold

And the lion lays with the lamb

They say it'll be nothing like I've ever known

And when I get there

Anal

My friends, and I decided to hang out @ one of our favorite joints. Usually we start @ boysboysandpoets, and crash there until everyone arrives. As a group we’ll decide where to go from there. The consensus in our groups and it’s core manifestations are a positive attitude; curiosity for current/international affairs;fun; love; and music. I’m the group's cookie – meaning if I can punk you I will, and they still love me for it *grin*.

BB is my brother’s personal security guard and he subsequently drives me around @ night, unless I want more privacy. This particular evening I was upbeat, and chatty.
One of my brother’s frat’s was in town, and I was “ordered” to entertain this individual.

In Dr. H’s vocabulary entertainment means: take him out for dinner, introduce him to your friends, take him to the theater, movies and lounges.
What Dr. H wants, Dr. H. normally gets, unless I have plans of my own. BB drove around for over 30 minutes, without finding a parking spot in the vicinity of our meeting spot. It was already dark as he finally ended up parking a couple of blocks away in a quiet neighborhood, but it doesn’t bother me. I like to walk, get some fresh air, and talk at the same time.

When each one of us is crashing in one by one, my brother’s frat gets acquainted with everyone. We laughed, shared anecdotes and gossiped about YOU lol. Anyways, we decided to hit the Geisha Lounge, BB; my brother’s frat; and I took a stroll back to the car to find my car in the midst of a drug raid. When I took a closer look at were the car was parked [remember that BB drove and I was chit chatting without paying attention whereas we parked], I recognized that we had parked in *Lion’s street.

I decided after some hesitation to send *Lion a note that there’s was a raid across his apartment. Meanwhile BB negotiated with the police, and we drove my car safely out of that area. We met with my friends and around 1:00 AM, I was back home.
I turned on my phone, and read the first reply message from * Lion

*Lion @ 01/19/2008 12:36 AM – Angry Asian Cookie: Yikes thanks for informing me.

*Lion @ 01/20/08 8:46 AM - Your car was parked in my block?

Angry Asian Cookie @ 8:49 AM – Lion: Happy Sunday and Good Morning, Yes,
my car was parked in front of your building when the police raided the house
across your street. There were dogs and I had to wait before I could remove my
car from the scene.

Angry Asian Cookie @ 8:55 AM happy and blessed
Sunday

*Lion @ 9:03 AM – Angry Asian Cookie – I have to run, but I
wanted to say I’m curious as to why you were parked in front of my building last
night

Angry Asian Cookie @ 9:07 AM Kinda odd question but if you really want to know: we drove around to find a spot to park and found it there then took a stroll to meet friends then we picked up the car for the next place to go have something to drink. lol Do you need more details?? You’re funny. Again, have a great and blessed day. FYI my brother’s security guard didn't park @ your building for any othe reason then the parking spot, and the mere fact that we met close by with friends. I didn’t pay much attention to where he parked until later. Hope these details help to kill your curiosity. Have a great day, and I hope you had a great evening last night!.

*Lion
@ 9:23 AM - Why are you getting so upset? It was odd to me that you were in my
isolated neighborhood at such a late hour. It was a simple question born out of
curiosity

*Lion @9:24 AM – It was a simple question. I’m thru with the
issue. Have a happy and blessed Sunday.

Angry Asian Cookie @ 9:42 AM
Just read your reply text: what is the issue of me being in your neighborhood @
that time?? Now you’ve got me curious.

A simple text message to inform an individual about what’s going on in his neighborhood [due do a coincident while finding a parking spot in a busy DC area] ends in an ANAL inquiry.. Apparently he took issue with my light-hearted and per request detailed response. If you ask me a question, then be prepared for the answer.

I was amused then, and am still amused about this ANAL response.

There are some simple remedies for Anal problems:


Home Remedies
A home remedy is a treatment or cure for a disease or other ailment that employs certain foods or other common household items. Home remedies may have actual medicinal properties that serve to treat or cure the disease or ailment in question.
Anal Hygiene: Proper Cleaning & Wiping Technique
Avoid rubbing with toilet paper or moist towelettes. This aggravates the hemorrhoids and irritates the skin.
Whenever possible, clean the area in a bath or a shower without using soap (soap is an irritant). Plain water or natural cleansing products are usually OK. Be sure to rinse the area well. Then gently dry the area by blotting it with a towel, or use a blow dryer set to light warm or cool.
Thick-quilted disposable baby wipes can be a suitable substitute for toilet paper when bathing is impractical. Be sure to wipe slowly and gently, and never scrub the area.
Anal Hygiene: Proper Way to Experience a Bowel Movement
Use the toilet whenever you feel the urge to have a bowel movement, even if it is several times throughout the day. Try to go as soon as you feel the urge to go; if you delay this urge by more than a few minutes, you might get a reflex constipation and loose the urge to go again for several hours. Prolonged sitting or excessive straining while on the toilet, allows the hemorrhoidal venous cushions to expand unnecessarily, causing hemorrhoid disease to develop or worsen. Avoid excessive straining with any bowel movement. A gentle pressure or straining of the abdominal and pelvic muscles is OK, but not for more than 30-consecutive seconds. Limit your time on the toilet from 3-5 minutes for any one sitting; if you have not completed an entire bowel movement, that’s OK; get off the toilet, walk around for a bit, and wait for the urge to have a bowel movement return. Don’t read, watch TV, talk on the phone, or play video games while sitting on the toilet, or else you might extend your time sitting on the toilet by more than a few minutes

A doctor will try to work out what the cause is. Before seeing the doctor, you may wish to keep a bowel diary for a week (look at the Bowel Control website listed in the useful contacts section). In difficult cases, an ultrasound scan can tell if the anal muscles have been damaged (for example, by childbirth). Medications such as loperamide can be used to prevent the bowel muscle squeezing too strongly and to make the faeces more solid.


Recently, a form of treatment called ‘behavioural treatment’ has proved to be helpful.



This teaches you how to resist the urgent need to rush to the lavatory. Look at bowel retraining in the self-help section of the Bowel Control website in the useful contacts section.
If the anal muscles are weak, injections of ‘bulking agents’ into the wall of the anus may help, but these have to be done by a specialist doctor and it is uncertain how effective the treatment is (British Journal of Surgery 2005; 92: 521–7). For ANAL PROBLEMS, a surgical operation is a last resort and may not be successful.






Hugzzz Dahlings,


angryasiancookie.in.dc@gmail.com