Losing you

At least once a day I receive one phone call from my friends, or relatives in Europe. What amazed me when I first came here, I was surprised that visiting family or even keeping in touch with family and friends was a holiday matter as oppose to a day to day activity. I guess living in Europe where distance is not an issue provides the opportunity to stay in touch with family and friends more frequently.

Today my friend Ton gave me a buzz and that totally surprised me. Back in the day, Ton and I traveled together for business and pleasure. My mother and friends brought me in touch with Ton. Ton was in need of a personal life coach;Voila ici! A fruitful collaboration was born. As a designer, Ton traveled to Milan, Rome, Cannes, Paris, New York and so forth. Little Miss Me was so fortunate to accompany Ton on several business trips even when he had his boyfriend with him. On one occasion he kicked out his then BF to have a "girl's" night of doing our nails and gossiping about celebs he dressed. When I left to the US [and Ton took a break from work] we lost touch.

It was a major but pleasant surprise to hear his voice again. Ton and I chitchat about celebs of course; his BF; and his new line. Then it hit me hard, he told me that he was diagnosed with AIDS and that he feels his sunset it approaching. All I could do was cry. In a previous post I went on and on about Russian Roulette and cheating. Ton always protected himself but when he would be in a steady and committed relationship, then he and his partner would decide [after testing] to have unprotected sex. He tested HIV positive a couple of years ago, after he found out his partner was positive. The disease has progressed and Ton is suffering from co diseases.

He asked me if we could make a trip to Milan again; me, him and Vlindertje. How can I say "no" to his request... I guess I'll be traveling back to Milan in April and maybe celebrate my birthday with Ton, if he can make it. He sounded so vulnerable and weak, so not the Ton I know for years.

This news affects me more then I realized. Ultimately I knew we would lose Ton but I wasn't prepared for it as yet, if I ever could be prepared to lose a close and dear friend. I'm not sure if I'll be able to post a lot the next couple of days.but I'll be around.


Hugzzz Dahlings,


angryasiancookie.in.dc@gmail.com

Russian Roulette

Recently I reflected on a situation whereas an individual was given notice that he was tested HIV positive. After this, he spoke with [@least] one former [s]ex partner to share the news.

When you ever imagine a situation as this, you wonder how you will respond - will you be surprised; devastated; angry; depressed. After [Self] Reflection the next stage will be a choice whether you want to deal with the reality, and get tested or not.

Respect for your own body, and that from your partner is key here. If you have an active sexual life, that's your choice and you sleep in the bed you made. However, when you do decide to have multiple sex partners respect your, and that from all your sex partners. If you're a non-smoker and a smoker blows the secondary smoke in your face - the smoker's choice to smoke becomes your problem. In restaurants and public place we're protected. And when we have sex, we can decide - no, we MUST decide to protect ourselves and others.

Now person who was tested positive leads a high-risk life style [according to sources], but still exposed his ex partner willingly to the risk of HIV. Now yes, she should have been cautious too, however if you are in a relationship whereas you have all reason to believe its monogamous at a certain point in your relationship you might decide to have intercourse without the protection.

I don't have ANY Respect for Cheaters who don't protect their partner from the effects and consequences of their risk-behavior by choice. AIDS and HIV are life threatning diseases; if you don't respect; love yourself then at least don't be selfish and use a condom with your partner or with your other sex partners. If you want to play Russian Roulette, hey be my guest. Russian Roulette is a 101 game and doesn't involve your partner.

Oh, and my friend tested negative on all STDs and HIV yeaaaah!

For reference I have included some pictures showing the effects of AIDS. I hope that it will rock your world. Your Body is PRECIOUS AND LOVE and NURTURE it. HIV/AIDS doesn't discriminate it can happen to YOU

BESAFE

1)Tumor AIDS related

2) Herpes Simplex AIDS

3) Oral AIDS Effects

4) Man with AIDS Dehydrated

5) Woman with Karposi Sarcoma AIDS

Hugzzz Dahlings,


angryasiancookie.in.dc@gmail.com